This is printed in the back of my book and I wanted to share it tonight, due to the nature of some of the emails I have receivied this week.
Loving the Body God Gave You
1. Look at yourself as a whole person, don’t just focus on bodies parts you don’t like.
2. Find a method of exercise that you enjoy and do it to enhance your body’s health and function, not to burn as many calories as you possibly can.
3. Make a list of 5 positive things about yourself, excluding appearance and keep the list in a visible location – example: bulletin board, desk, locker, gym bag, Bible or refrigerator.
4. Wear comfortable modesty clothes that fit your body, work with your body, not against it.
5. Make the choice to see beauty in your body (temple of the Holy Spirit).
6. Don’t restrict, eat when you are hungry and learn to recognize your hunger cues, so as to avoid binging.
7. Don’t over exercise, learn to give your muscles and body rest when you are tired.
8. Surround yourself with positivity and friends that will support you in your journey of recovery.
9. Put a Post-it/index card on the mirror in your bathroom that reads, “I’m beautiful because I’m a daughter of God, created in His image and likeness.”
10. Have a role model and learn from them.
11. When you see a ninety-five pound model on the front of a magazine, remind yourself that they aren’t happy and that their appearance doesn’t radiate true beauty.
12. Protest things that you see in the media that fuel poor body image.
13. Take time everyday to thank God for your cross and all that He has blessed you with.
14. Every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror and say, “Father, I’m beautiful because I’m your daughter. Please show me the beauty You see, show me how precious I am – I long to see it.” Even if you don’t “feel” like saying this, do it anyway.
15. Be patient and kind to yourself. Remember, sometimes you are your own worst enemy.
10 “Will-Powers” for Improving Body Image
By: Michael Levine, Ph.D. and Linda Smolak, Ph.D.
1. Twice a day, everyday, I WILL ask myself: “Am I benefiting from focusing on what I believe are the flaws in my body weight or shape?”
2. I WILL think of three reasons why it is ridiculous for me to believe that thinner people are happier or “better.” I will repeat these reasons to myself whenever I feel the urge to compare my body shape to someone.
3. I WILL spend less and less time in front of mirrors – especially when they are making me feel uncomfortable and self-conscious about my body.
4. I WILL exercise for the joy of feeling my body move and grow stronger. I will not exercise simply to lose weight, purge fat from my body, or to “make- up” for calories I have eaten.
5. I WILL participate in activities that I enjoy, even if they call attention to my weight and shape. I will constantly remind myself that I deserve to do things I enjoy, like dancing, swimming, etc., no matter what my shape or size is!
6. I WILL refuse to wear clothes that are uncomfortable or that I do not like but wear simply because they divert attention from my weight or shape. I will wear clothes that are comfortable and that make me feel comfortable in my body.
7. I WILL list 5-10 good qualities that I have, such as understanding, intelligence, or creativity. I will repeat these to myself whenever I start to feel bad about my body.
8. I WILL practice taking people seriously for what they say, feel, and do. Not for how slender, or “well put together” they appear.
9. I WILL surround myself with people and things that make me feel good about myself and my abilities. When I am around people and things that support me and make me feel good, I will be less likely to base my self-esteem on the way my body looks.
10. I WILL treat my body with respect and kindness. I will feed it, keep it active, and listen to its needs. I will remember that my body is the vehicle that will carry me to my dreams!